Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Losing A Friend

This past Friday I lost a really good friend. I am not alone in this loss. There were so many people that my friend Barbara touched. She was so funny and cool and I never had a dull moment with her. One of the best things is realizing how many people she knew and affected.

If I ever needed to track something down for a styling job, Barbara knew it. If I had a question about a restaurant, Barbara had been there. We shared friends, a love of old school hip hop, margaritas and so so so much more.

The last time I saw her (last Tuesday), I brought my iPod with a playlist created for her. I plugged it into my Muji speaker and played her favorite song "Set It Off." She smiled and said "Let's get this party started, right?"

I love Barbara and I'm so grateful to have been her friend. She was lucky enough to make sure that she told everyone how she felt about them. In the past two years, I've been a bit more reserved with my feelings and love, but that's coming to an end. We are here on this beautiful Earth for a finite amount of time and I will continue to enjoy it all.

Things I will miss about my friend:
*Taking Uma to Fort Greene Park and calling Barb to see if she could come over - she lived across the street, so she'd peek her head out the window and 9 out of 10 times, she'd come out. Uma would be soooo happy.
*Calling Barbara to see if she'd heard of a new restaurant. Just last night I read a review about The General Greene and almost called her, (sigh).
*Watching tv shows with Barb when we had sleepovers
*Fresh fruit margaritas with Barbara and the girls at El Rey del Sol to celebrate summer
*Driving with her from Manhattan to Brooklyn - she was a navigational genius
*Bowling in Port Authority with the whole gang - we all had bowling aliases (Snackho, Cash Money...) . My favorite time was when we competed on that Dance Dance Revolution video game
*Recounting silly stories and chistes with her
*Silently sitting together and just enjoying each other's company
*We once worked on a Gourmet magazine shoot together and logistically it was a hot mess. Of course the shots were beautiful, but that doesn't tell the story. We were in Charleston and because we had so much to do, we almost never got to eat with the crew (hello, the story was for Gourmet, so they were gallivanting around the city eating at the best restaurants - we had dinner at Appleby's - yuck). Between one broken tooth (a fossilized Jordan almond found at the bottom of a styling kit), heat exhaustion ("Pull the car over!" "No, I'm fine" while retching out the window), my first driving experience (sans license in a mini van, picking up antiques) and a good taste of boiled peanuts, she'd always make fun of me for losing it on an airline representative over the phone. Geez, it was fun.

Enjoy your friends, don't shy away from the good experiences and never feel embarrassed about telling them that you love them!

Thanks Barbara Anne!

(photo courtesy Mr. Small)

1 comment:

Sun Follower said...

Lovely post... made me cry. Barb surely attracted her like in the friends she made. Thank you for this, Fela!


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